Calling someone sensitive is usually a subjective opinion. But the term Highly Sensitive Person is also a concept in psychology. Being deemed a highly sensitive person (HSP) is not a diagnosis but is instead a label based on where you land on the sensory-processing spectrum.
An HSP has a strong reaction to sounds, textures, temperature, light (or dark), and even vaguer entities like vibes. They notice and feel things sooner and more intensely than most others. A sense of being overwhelmed is not rare. But, as you’re about to see, there are also many benefits of being highly sensitive.
Signs That Someone Is A Highly Sensitive Person
Nothing on the list below is something that needs to be “fixed” or should be considered “wrong.” That said, these signs are helpful for the HSP and the people in their lives. It identifies them and can make it easier to accommodate and appreciate them.
For starters, due to their sensory-processing sensitivity, an HSP might steer clear of big crowds, noisy environments, bright or flashing lights, content that is violent or intense, and clothing that feels scratchy, itchy, or too tight.
HSPs are loners and 7 out of 10 of them are introverts. They develop friendships but those tend to be deep, committed, and intimate.
They may socialize or go to concerts and parties. But the trade-off is almost always a need for plenty of downtime to recover.
HSPs feel emotions deeply. They take criticism to heart and are prone to worrying and overthinking.
All of the above increases the likelihood of a highly sensitive person struggling with depression or anxiety.
On The Flip Side
Like almost everything, the life of an HSP is much more than black-and-white. For example:
Natural Leaders: A highly sensitive person will not rush when making decisions. They reflect and consider all the details. Most importantly, their sensitivity attunes them to their intuition and results in better choices.
Depth: The superficial holds less appeal to an HSP. They give easily and display profound compassion. If you’re looking for a meaningful discussion, seek out an HSP!
Appreciation: When the outside world feels overwhelming, the HSP cultivates a rich inner life. They are unashamed to be moved by walks in nature, beautiful works of art, and the sight of human kindness in action.
What Does A Highly Sensitive Person Need?
If there’s an HSP in your life, you might be wondering how to be a good friend, relative, partner, co-worker, etc. Here are a few suggestions:
Be patient
Give them time and space to rest and process
Don’t judge behavior just because it’s not what you might do
Encourage them to practice self-care (see below)
Develop ways to adapt your sensory style, e.g. getting physically close, speaking loudly, etc.
Benefit from their sharp awareness by trusting their intuition and unique perspectives
Basic Self-Help Steps For An HSP
Schedule breaks into your day to recover and recharge
Learn how to say no when you need to
Maintain healthy sleep patterns, eating habits, and exercise routines
Arrange your living space so it reflects your needs and wants
Therapy Can Help A Highly Sensitive Person
If you’re tired of being viewed as “too sensitive” or “weird,” it can be useful to meet with a professional. In a calm therapy setting, you can gain validation, learn how to name your emotions and triggers and develop self-compassion. Most of all, you can come to take pride in your HSP superpowers.
Everyone is unique and can discover ways to live more comfortably in the world. An excellent first step is to connect with an experienced therapist to learn more about the difference between being a Highly Sensitive Person and needing treatment for anxiety.