As an adult, our jobs and careers are a large part of who we are. Working is one of the main roles we perform daily. Quitting a job can be considered a major life event.

Maybe you’re looking for bigger and better opportunities. Perhaps you’re leaving behind a toxic work environment. This decision you’ve made can stem from multiple different moving parts.

Let’s say you have a new co-worker you like. There might be chemistry that feels like attraction, or you might sense a friendship brewing. What factors will help determine how and if you connect with them? How would you feel if you were told that the quality of your attachment to this new person could be based on how you were treated as a baby? 

A big part of managing the holidays for someone with emotional trauma is routine. It helps immensely to maintain steady patterns. This offers a feeling of control and certainty in an often challenging world. If a person with emotional trauma were to get thrown off this kind of schedule, it could result in the intensifying of trauma symptoms. When the holidays kick in, imagining how unpredictable things can feel is not hard.

From pop culture to social media and beyond, conversations about trauma are happening more than ever before. One aspect, however, needs more attention. You see, traumatic events can cause a survivor to cultivate coping mechanisms that end up being counterproductive. A particularly insidious example of this is trauma bonding. 

There is no time of day that grief doesn’t hurt. It’s a tricky ride and an unpredictable process that uniquely impacts each person. That said, there are some universal trends. For example, grief often feels worse at night. This can be the case because, generally speaking, things tend to slow down in the evening. People are typically less busy, and their environment is quieter.

Medical trauma takes many forms. For example, the basic reality of suffering a serious injury or illness is potentially traumatic. The treatments and procedures are intense. On top of that, there are logistics involved in hospital stays and interventions. Healthcare workers are often stretched to their limits and, thus, subject to medical trauma. Then there’s the frightening fact that one of the primary causes of death in the U.S. is medical error.

Everyone has had some negative experiences in the past. As a result, those painful memories can sometimes be triggered and cause fresh discomfort. For someone with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), however, such triggers can induce frighteningly extreme reactions. Put simply, they’ve endured a traumatic event and the trigger makes their brain react as if it is happening again. 

For most people, conversations about inherited characteristics involve things like eye color or height. But there’s a deeper and darker discussion to be had on this topic. Generational trauma is a term used to describe how psychological and emotional tendencies can also be passed down in families. Trauma that occurred very long ago can create circumstances that end up impacting family members several generations later.

Author Joan Didion once remarked that “virtually everyone who has ever experienced grief mentions this phenomenon of waves.” Everyone must, of course, experience and process grief in their own way. There is no one “right” way. But no one fully avoids the sensation of waves. Sure, there are stages of grief but they are not linear.

Trauma is a result. When someone endures or witnesses a horrific event, there is the potential for them to experience trauma. Such events may include neglect, abuse, assault, loss, violence, illness, and so much more. Whether or not we are traumatized depends on several specific factors. What matters most is how we experience the events and what impact it has on us (and our life). 

There is no surprise when someone finds out that childhood trauma often causes mental and emotional issues well into adulthood. The connection appears obvious. But what about childhood trauma’s connection to physical illness?

Everyone goes through grief. It’s a painful yet inevitable part of life. Despite this universality, very few of us are prepared. Our culture doesn’t talk much about grief and we live our lives vulnerable to how much it can change us (see next section). But there’s good news. It’s never too late to put in the work to understand and address your grief.

You have almost certainly heard of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Thanks to Hollywood and news headlines, we usually associate PTSD with war zones and natural disasters. However, different forms of PTSD exist and they can be caused by a very wide range of events. Take, for example, Post-Traumatic Relationship Syndrome (PTRS).

Trauma experienced as a child does not directly cause chronic pain in adulthood. However, a wide cross-section of studies has identified the connection between the two.

From the outside, it can appear confusing to watch someone stay in an abusive situation. It could be their family, spouse, job, etc. Whatever the specifics, you may wonder “why they stay.” As you probably imagine, it’s a lot more complicated than that. A major component of this dynamic is trauma bonding.

Trauma is common, perhaps more common than anyone imagines. Nearly seven in 10 children experience at least one traumatic event by age 16. As for adults, the numbers are almost as high. Fifty percent of women and 60 percent of men endure at least one trauma ever their adult lifetime.

It’s quite normal to need an adjustment period after a relationship ends. The passage of time along with some healthy support from friends and family might do the job. However, there are instances when a past relationship can weigh you down with toxic baggage. In fact, it can result in a version of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Everyone’s life is filled with potentially traumatic events. Some are obvious. Some are insidious. There is no way to know upfront whether or not an experience will result in trauma.

Any time you endure a terrible experience, it has the potential to result in trauma. Each situation is unique and it can be difficult to fully understand your response. It requires time and expertise to discern a potential diagnosis.

Enduring a traumatic experience can leave long-term scars. Unfortunately, one of those scars could relate to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-blame.